31 year old female living in Japan×36 year old man living in Canada
We have been in a long-distance relationship for about a year and a half.
This is a story about an older Canadian man and a woman who has been in a long-distance relationship for about a year and a half after returning to Japan.
- I met him at a language exchange
- Long-distance relationship starts after returning to Japan
- Frequency of dates during long-distance relationships
- He’s lazy to contact…
- Failure during my long-distance relationship
- LINE and Instagram are convenient!
- The appeal of online dating
- What you think is necessary for a successful long-distance relationship
- What made him sad during a long-distance relationship
I met him at a language exchange
I met him when I visited Canada on a working holiday.
Although I traveled to Canada, I didn’t know anyone at first, so I started looking for a job without going to school, and somehow I was looking for a place to interact to make acquaintances.
When I participated in *the language exchange that I happened to find, I had a large number of exchanges, but I became acquainted with them, and eventually I started playing in groups.
* Language exchange: An exchange event where people from different mother tongues become partners and teach each other their language. It is often held in cafes and restaurants, but there are also dedicated apps that you can enjoy by chatting or calling.
Long-distance relationship starts after returning to Japan
I was staying in Canada for a working holiday for a while, but originally planned to return to Japan.
As the days passed after I got to know him, my friendship changed to dating, but by the time I got to know him, my return date had already been decided.
I became a lover, but with my return, a long-distance relationship between Japan and Canada began.
Frequency of dates during long-distance relationships
We haven’t met at all (because we can’t enter either country due to the influence of the new coronavirus)
He’s lazy to contact…
He is lazy to contact, so he rarely contacts me via LINE or phone.
So I’m very happy when he calls me or when it’s a phone call.
I was also happy when I received a surprise present.
I don’t seem to be the type to give something to people, so I’m glad that he thought about me when I had a surprise present at an event.
Failure during my long-distance relationship
When there are events such as anniversaries and birthdays, I send him gifts and message cards.
I’m thinking of shipping early because it takes time to arrive because of the distance, but I couldn’t come up with an idea or it took time to prepare, so the shipping was delayed after all …
I feel that I arrived early as expected only once, so I almost failed.
LINE and Instagram are convenient!
Instagram and LINE are very useful during long-distance relationships.
LINE is mainly used for everyday communication, and because I’m used to it, it’s easy to convey my feelings by sharing photos and stamps.
Since he is lazy to contact, he does not exchange much frequently and shares information on daily life is small, but even so, he uploads photos when he went out to play on Instagram, so one-on-one on LINE. I think it’s convenient to be able to get a glimpse of his daily life without having to interact with him.
The appeal of online dating
Since you can’t actually meet in person, communication is limited to text during long-distance relationships.
Still, I feel like I’m connected to an online date, and sometimes talking on a videophone allows me to talk without a time lag, and it’s great to see him.
I think that the videophone is the closest to you and your lover when you can’t actually meet.
What you think is necessary for a successful long-distance relationship
Don’t worry too much about the details. Don’t think deeply.
When I feel a little depressed or lonely, I can’t find any answer even if I think about it alone, so if I stop thinking and call the other person, it often makes me feel better.
What made him sad during a long-distance relationship
One of the ways I communicated with him was when he was late when planning a videophone call or a group online drinking party with his mutual friends.
There was a time difference and it was early morning in the area where he lived, so I was expecting to be late, but I was sad that the reason was that he had a drinking party the day before.
I hope he enjoys having fun with friends he can meet in person, but I felt that he was despised because he had promised before that schedule.